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№ 168 Marriage Advice For Matt

Season 3

Date

2013-07-09

Featuring

Ben, Matt, Des Anderson

Length

1:10:45

Category

Feedback

Series

Advice

Listen

2019-01-30

Des plus good advice

Odd Opening

0:00 Matt says his name wrong in the opening.

Firsts

  • Parental warning

Future Episodes

  • Behind the Scenes

0:28 Matt says his name wrong in the opening.

5 weeks to the wedding. Ben is a groomsman.

3:03 When you found out I was really into sci-fi, what did you think? I think you're not that into it. Oh! I agree. This is an ongoing conversation. I agree. Don't tell the audience that I'm into sci-fi. He's not that into sci-fi.
4:18 You found out that I was doing a podcast about science fiction and theology prior to us dating, like we were just friends. Oh, you were a fan first? That's awesome! You're marrying a fan!
5:54 I'm kinda inappropriate sometimes.
8:14 Have you watched LOST? No. That's awesome. That's on the agenda after we get married. Yeah, we're going to do it, all the way through. What if you don't like it? But I told him I wanted to, and he said we had to wait. That's too intimate for Matt. We can't watch LOST together until we're married. It's on that list.
9:01 What is going to happen, and I'm not saying this is likely to happen, but we get halfway through Season 1 and Des is like, 'I don't like it. This is not a good show.' I would just stop. I would respect your opinion. Stop LOST or stop your marriage?
9:59 Right now, I'm past it. I'm over LOST. I think everyone knows I'm over LOST. I don't think that's accurate.

Advice

Casey: communication, date night, no negative words about each other, make traditions

Matt doesn't like seafood.

Dawn: show your love, be best friends

Marriage Advice

Allan Reini

  1. Can always improve
  2. Pray together
  3. Good conversations happen after crying
  4. Get away together
  5. Put your spouses needs first
  6. Share a sense of humor
  7. Display the character of Christ in everything
  8. Be a student of marriage
  9. Don't let expectations exceed reality
  10. Never criticise each other publically
17:40 Matt discusses the last marriage counseling session The man's role is to serve and sacrifice, whereas the woman's role is to submit. That's right. So I will serve and sacrifice for you. And you will submit to all six seasons of LOST.

Ben: love is a choice

Nathan: sex covers over a multitude of sins (advice from his aunt)

Edited out: Matt asked a question and Ben got graphic

John Wilkerson: never ask your wife to go where you won't lead, divorce is not an option, lead with service and sacrifice

Andrew: don't throw away your Spider-Man suit

31:40 Andrew says husbands should be heroes for their wives How do you feel about that? Do you want me to be a hero for you? Sure. Who would you want me to kill?

JS Earls: women want sympathy, not solutions

Top 5 Pieces of Marriage Advice

Ben

  1. Have kids sooner rather than later
  2. Learn to know each other's needs and rhythms
  3. Be aware that there are things that seem normal to you that will make your spouse say, "What the Frodo?"
  4. Change each other and be willing to be changed.
  5. Avoid projecting your own issues onto your spouse.

Steve Walker from Australia: study marriage together, have kids soon, do devotions together, prioritize each other over kids, pray together, play together, plan vacations, talk about the things you read and watch, expect tough times, have fun

Ben is Right: Steve agreed that you should have kids early

The Matt Anderson quiz

Matt asks Des questions about himself and sci-fi. If she misses, Ben can steal.

Question Des Ben Answer
What is Matt's favorite sci-fi trilogy? Pass Star Wars Back to the Future
Favorite superhero? Batman Batman
Two favorite themes in science fiction? Time travel and parallel universes Time travel and parallel universes
What year did Matt purchase his first comic book? 1994 1993 1991
Star Wars or Star Trek? Star Wars Star Wars
What video game genre did Matt play in high school and college? Pass Wrestling Wrestling
Power Rangers or Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles? Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles
What popular science fiction movie franchise did Matt watch for the first time last summer? Alien Alien
Has Matt read any Harry Potter books? No Yes
What superhero did Matt love as a child because he wore orange? Aquaman Aquaman
J. R. R. Tolkien or C. S. Lewis? C. S. Lewis C. S. Lewis
Which co-host loves Disney? Daniel Daniel
Which co-host used to have a ponytail? Ben Ben
Which co-host loves cats? Koby Koby
Favorite sci-fi show? LOST LOST
Bonus: favorite color? Red, Yellow, Orange Red is his favorite to look at, Yellow is his favorite to wear, and his internal visualization of himself wears orange

I took the quiz and missed Power Rangers and favorite color. 💪

Jonathan: you can't take what you say back

Aaron Reini: Ephesians 5:25

Noah: don't have sex with someone else

RC: have hobbies separately and together

Pastor Colin: don't mash the wedding cake at the reception

Raul: God is party to the vows

Question of the Day: do you prefer married or unmarried superheroes?

Ben: have fun because you won't remember anything from the wedding day anyway